Practices vary by subculture and by individual. The typical Loroi funeral would be familiar to us, except telepathic; those closest to the deceased share their memories. In a close-knit group, this sharing may involve direct telepathic link via touch. Such a link amounts almost to the sharing of the deceased herself's own memories, and as Krulle suggested, the presence of the dead can seem almost palpable, and can linger for long afterward. Depending on the situation, this presence can be a help or a harm to the bereaved. This is also, in a way, how Loroi seek a form of immortality.Razor One wrote:I was thinking more of how the Loroi themselves deal with death, rather than the remains of the deceased. Alcohol isn't a thing for the Loroi, so drinking to the memory of the fallen is out. I'm just curious as to how they deal with the matter on a personal level ranging up to groups and beyond for extremely important people.
As Tempo mentioned on page 70, "We would not wish to fail to accommodate your death rituals. Loss is something we Loroi understand all too well". How do the Loroi deal with death?
As to how individual Loroi cope with death, it's complicated. Their feelings on the subject are ones that we would recognize, but the martial nature of their society of necessity views death as a normal part of life, and Loroi duty does not allow much leeway for self-destructive forms of grieving (such as drug use). On the plus side, telepathy allows for the sharing of grief in constructive ways... though this can be a double-edged sword.
The question of how a society and individuals cope with death on a constant basis (as in a war that has dragged on for 25 years) is an important issue and one that is dealt with in some depth in the story (as Tempo alludes to the in the line you quoted). I try to keep it light, but this story does have a body count, and that has to have an impact on the characters. (Despite the relatively light tone of the first chapter, many thousands of people have been killed in those events -- human, Loroi and Umiak.)